Hey moms and dads, remember the days before you had kids? You know, the days when you could sleep in, take long hot showers and go out whenever you wanted? It didn’t seem like much then, but once you become a parent, those things become a luxury, and you quickly realize to appreciate the little things a lot more.
Whenever I go on a date with my husband it immediately takes me back to our carefree kidless days. I’m reminded of all the fun spunky parts of his personality that I fell in love with long ago.
Just before Christmas we had an overnight date night, and was amazing. Like really amazing! We stayed in swanky a hotel, we ate like a king and queen and we soaked up every single second we had alone together. When it’s just the two of us I’m really able to let loose, relax and be my happy-go-lucky self.
I admit that since our daughter was born my husband and I have gone on a fair amount of dates, and we’ve even gone on two mini getaways without her. But each and every time I’m reminded of just how important our alone time together is, and that we need to date each other more often because it’s not only good for our marriage, but it’s also fundamental for our family.
1. Reconnect: There’s no better way to reconnect mentally, physically and emotionally than to spend some quality alone time together. No interruptions, no obligations, no crazy busy schedule to follow and no responsibilities. It’s the perfect time to engage in real conversations, hold hands, cuddle and simply enjoy each other. My husband and I always feel completely rejuvenated and better connected than before after a date night, especially the overnight dates!
2. Freedom: Walk around your house or hotel room naked, pee with the door open, order takeout or room service… simply enjoy the short window of freedom you have to do whatever the hell you want with your spouse, whenever you want to because you can! I know personally there’s no better way to make me feel young, peppy and carefree than letting my hair down and not having a care in the world for a little while. And there’s no better person to do this with than my hubby!
3. Sex: OK, let’s move on to the good stuff. Sex. Dirty, raunchy, wherever you want to, whenever you want to and as loud as you want to SEX! No worrying about waking anybody up, scheduling during naps or finding the energy and time. As I mentioned above, reconnecting with your spouse physically, mentally and emotionally is incredibly important, and a lot of that connection comes from being intimate together. It’s one of the biggest pieces of your relationship that sets you apart from any other relationship you have. So don’t be afraid to send the kiddo’s off with a family member or sitter for the night and get it on. A LOT! Trust me, your sex life and marriage will thank you for it 😉
4. A Solid Foundation: Here’s the deal, no matter how busy your life is, or how tired you are, you need to take time for just you and your spouse, and you need to do it more than once or twice a year. A friend once told me, “Marriage is the foundation of your family.” She went on to say that a strong and happy marriage helps build and sustain a lifelong strong and happy family. So think about your marriage and your family, and remember that it’s OK for you and your spouse to go on an overnight date night or take a mini-getaway from your kids once in a while. It’ll help you rekindle your flame and reconnect with each other keeping your foundation solid and your family strong.
Happy dating blog lovers! 😉