The past few weeks blogging has admittedly not been the first thing on my mind or agenda. In fact, I’ve barely thought about it at all and haven’t been very good at keeping up with the blogs I enjoy following. My husband and I have a lot going on in our personal life which is nothing short of all wonderful, happy and amazing, but with that said, sometimes life, whether good or bad, gets in the way of the things we love to do in our spare time. I guess it’s called being a grown up or an adult! When and how did that happen?!
With all the fabulousness my husband and I have going on, he’s needed to chip in and help me out more than usual with some of the typical weekly tasks and chores I tend to do. We both tend to take turns in the kitchen as far as cooking and cleaning but, he has spent far more time in the kitchen than I have over the last couple of months, a lot more! He’s also helped me with laundry, which I must admit, I’ve often questioned if he ever did before I came into his life! With all that’s going on people have “warned” him that he’ll need to help out more and have said, “happy wife happy life buddy!” That ridiculous cliche saying is what inspired me to write this blog. But, none the less, without hesitation, complaints or question, he’s helped me. In fact, I don’t think my husband has ever once complained about helping out with the more “womenly” chores around the house. Ever. Which got me realizing that he’s never complained about anything I’ve ever asked him to do or help with.
Whether it’s attending a chick flick, a girly concert, picking up birth control or tampons or simply helping me with the laundry, my husband has never once said no, complained or even made a face. And this works both ways which brings me to the cliche saying and title of my blog, “Happy Wife, Happy Life…” I think when you really find true love, it doesn’t matter where you are or what you’re doing, as long as you’re with the person you love, that’s all that matters. I know attending a Sarah McLachlan concert was never on the high list of things my husband wanted to do. But, he’s attended not one but two Sarah concerts with me, along with many others. Attending a cycling race isn’t typically on my list of things I love to do, but when my husband asks me if I’ll go, the answer is always “of course!” It’s about give and take and it’s about being with the one you love. So happy wife, happy life has never once made sense to me. A marriage is an equal give and take and should be about making each other happy in our life together. It simply shouldn’t be so one sided.
I realized a long time ago that I found a diamond in the rough. I think in the beginning of our relationship, my husband always wanting to spend time with me or always being excited at attending an event or activity I suggested surprised me. In past relationships that was never the case, ever. In fact, it made me realize just how unhealthy and lacking my previous relationships were. I loved (and still love) that my husband didn’t care what we did, as long as he was with me. It was so nice to finally be with someone that felt the same way I did about them. Our relationship has never felt forced, it’s always felt easy and natural. I remember when I first moved in with my husband (obviously at the time we were dating), it had only been about seven months since we started seeing each other. Everyone “warned me” the first few months of living together is trying and tough, and that you have to learn to live with each other. I lived with a past boyfriend that was literally torture, and not just the first few months, the entire time. My husband and I never experienced this once. Before I had moved in I was at his place every night anyway, but once his home was officially my home, I had never felt more at home and comfortable. Sure we fight and disagree sometimes, who doesn’t? But arguments and disagreements aren’t very often at all. Being together, living together and loving each other just seems as easy as breathing. My husband is my home, no matter where we are, if I’m with him, I am nowhere else but home. I’ve never met anyone who has truly loved me for everything I am and who has made me feel so loved and comfortable for simply being me.
With all that said, a happy life to me isn’t just about a man making his wife happy and doing what she wants all the time. A happy life is about a husband and a wife making each other happy, equally. It’s about give and take, compromise, trust, honesty, faith, compassion and love from each other all the time. So when someone says to me or my husband, “Happy wife, happy life” I just smile and think to myself, “A happy husband and wife make for a happy life.” A marriage is a joint partnership and I’m pretty sure any husband just going through the motions just to make his wife happy isn’t happy himself. I’d never want that for my husband, in fact, it would break my heart if that were ever the case. Marriage is about making each other happy, every day, every week, every year. After all, that’s what we signed up for in this journey of marriage. To love each other and make each other happy always, for who we are inside and out no matter what life’s uncertainties bring us.
Perhaps it’s cliche and biased, but I truly feel like my husband and I have a unique, one of a kind, hard to find love for each other and relationship. And even friends, family and strangers have told us that from the very beginning. I feel lucky and blessed to have my husband as my husband and by my side every day. And I enjoy giving each other the wonderful, happy and crazy life that we have and share! So happy wife, happy life just doesn’t exist in this household! But, a happy husband, wife and life does!
~Susieqsinger