Ladies, gents, blog readers of the web world, I have a confession to make. Last night I had some much needed girl on girl time. And it was AH-Freakin’-Mazing! It had been a while – like five months. I couldn’t take it anymore, so I had to re-break the ice. Wait… Whaaaat is she saying?! Relax peeps! I had a “date” with a girlfriend. Since becoming a mother, this was my first “girls night out” sans baby, sans husband. Which got me thinking, has it really been five months? Five loooooooooooong drawn out months without a girls night? How the hell did that happen? What has motherhood done to me? Has it turned me into old mother hen? Blasphemy! I shall not allow!
OK, but getting to the serious “stuff”, I want to touch upon how important I think it is to get away from it ALL. If you’ve been keeping up with me, than you know I’m a stay-at-home mom. I truly feel blessed I’m able spend all my days with my daughter. However, the whole “stay-at-home” thing is no joke people. I LOVE my kid, but I’m tired. It’s taxing on my brain and body, and it’s exhausting to be needed 24/7 without a break. I could say a working mom has it easier, but I can’t compare the two so I can’t say that. But what I can say, is that I have days when I wish I had a lunch “break” where I could eat in peace without my child grabbing for my boobs or screaming. Or days when I wish I could take a 20 minute mid-day walk without worrying if my daughter is going to have a meltdown or a blowout poop. As a stay-at-home mom, I don’t get that. It’s me and my baby girl against the world all day long. And some days are VERY long.
Last week was the second week in a row that by Friday, I was “stick a fork in me I’m done.” I felt fried, I got beastly and I started bitch texting a new mommy friend whose daughter is two weeks younger than mine. After some mobile venting, I suggested we plan a date – a barre class where we met (awww how cute!) and dinner. I was sold, she was sold, we planned it, we did it – it was fabulous. Of course, we both sent the inevitable, “how is she????” text to our husbands during dinner, but honestly, it felt SO GOOD to go out and have a conversation with another new mom. Especially one who I’m learning is a lot like me. We talked about our girls, our husbands, how exhausted we are, how difficult married life can be with a baby and how we definitely need to plan another “date.” We also talked without interruptions and without being judged.
I felt rejuvenated driving home, and realized that once in a while, – are you ready moms – girl date nights are just as important as date nights with your husband. I’ve met a lot of moms who don’t go on dates at all. I’m here to tell you that You. Need. Breaks! From your husband, your kids, your house full of dirty dishes, your dirty diapers, mounds of laundry and unkept floors – You need breaks from your every demand, big and small, that claims your every day. Don’t feel bad for needing it or guilty for doing it. Schedule a date, enjoy a little “girl on girl” time and you’ll feel human again. I swear!
Okay,okay… so maaaaaybe it’s not exactly “girl on girl”, but you have to admit, I peaked your interest just a little bit, didn’t I?! 🙂